Relationships can be tricky. One moment they are going great, and the next you are breaking up. It’s even worse when you had no idea that the two of you were on the verge of splitting up. However, a breakup doesn’t have to break you as a person.
If he just dumped you, then you are most likely anxious about two things. The first is that you feel so hurt you are wondering if you will ever be able to be happy again. The second thing is the fear that nobody else will ever love you. Okay, here’s the truth: the hurt feeling and anxiety are both very real. However, these are mostly mental conditions you are creating in your mind.
While the love you get from a romantic relationship is different than the kind you get from friends and family, it can help to ease the pain of a breakup if you remember that other people in the world care for you. If spirituality is important to you, then you can also tap into that for more love. Granted, this is not a direct replacement, but it is a way to help you get things back under control and help you to move on.
The next step is to reconnect or spend more time with those same people. Not only will you feel the good vibes that their feelings for you bring, but chances are that they too have gone through a breakup at some point in their lives. With any luck, they will share stories of their breakups, and how they were able to go on with their lives. There can be great comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
Still, being dumped sucks. There’s no way around it, but that doesn’t mean you have to let it ruin your life, either. You can turn the tables by using all of your new free time to focus on improving your life. Being involved in a relationship takes a lot of time and commitment. Even if it was near-perfect, you still had to consider the wants and needs of your partner. But not anymore. Now is the time to do all of those you wanted, it’s time to care for number one, it’s time to do what you want without worrying about somebody else.
Spending time on yourself is a great start, and should help you to start feeling empowered to do what you want to do. Now you can take it a step further and do something for others. What we’re talking about here is volunteering. Not only will you be playing a small part in making the world a better place for someone, but it will also help you to get out and be with other people.
Being dumped is only the end of a relationship, not the end of the world. It may feel like it for a while, but it’s up to you to do what needs to be done to carry on. You already have a few good ideas to get started on the right path to having a happier future.